Did you have a really creative and active imagination as a kid? Did you invent stories and pretend you were invincible, or maybe that you were some kind of superhero? Me too!!! How about now? Do you still dream up make-believe places in your mind, or pretend you have superpowers? Why not?
Somewhere between being a child and now you lost your sense of freedom, or creativity, or permission to dream and play make believe. But, do you realize that your actions and intentions are ruled by your dreams? That the things you think most about become your energy, thus becoming who you are? Wow, I think I want to be a kid again ....
WAIT, you can be!!!! You can choose right now to start using your imagination again! You can choose to give yourself permission to say Y.E.S. right now!!!
Do you realize you were given the most incredible and powerful gift? You were given a song that is only yours to sing!!! No one else can sing your song!!! No one else can shine the light that is uniquely yours! No one has your exact combination of super powers.
By giving yourself permission, and creating a definitive YES for YOU means you say NO to all the noise, all the naysayers, all the repetitive cycles we continue to embrace without ever stopping to ask ourselves, “Is this my truth? And, if this is my truth today ... do I want it to be my truth tomorrow? Do I even believe this?”
Y.E.S. is a complete sentence! And, it is OK for you to say Y.E.S. to yourself first!!! You need to be able to fill your cup, and put on your oxygen mask first, before you can give anything to someone else. That is what You Empowered Strong was built to do ... to help you learn HOW to give yourself THAT permission. To learn how to say Y.E.S. (You Empowered Strong) to yourself.
So, are you ready to say Y.E.S.? Make a commitment to YOU, for YOU today!!!
As I reflect back on one of the most impactful weeks of my life, I truly sit here in amazement at the blessings around me. And, what I find to be the most astonishing is that those blessings truly are out there in the Universe for each of us to reach out and embrace. I am no different than anyone else, no more gifted, or special, and luck has nothing to do with it. You see, I simply have been able to open the channels to receive God's glory around me (and, still continue to open even more channels every day).
I heard so many women this past week who have never given themselves permission to believe they are worth God's grace and the gifts given to them. They are playing small, or in a place where fear is the driver, and I found myself recognizing some of the same in my myself. Yes, I am playing bigger on some scale and living my life with intention and passion (or, at least, I am trying) ... yet, I still had a breakthrough moment in my own vulnerability and fear. My conscious choice in that given moment opened up even more opportunity around playing big and living my life with greater purpose.
I realized that so many can connect and relate to my ("mess to success") story, my authenticity, and my light ... and, to not play as big as I can serves no one, including myself. That I, like everyone of you, was given a song in my heart that is a gift that can impact and affect others, and to not put it out there in every capacity I can, is arrogant and selfish on my part. For if I have the power to impact even one, then I have a responsibility to do that as big and as bold as I possibly can.
All this is to say, there is so much more coming. I want to help others give themselves the same permission to be more, do more, believe more, and lift others up more. I want to work with those who hold the future of our next generation in their hands, in their hearts, and in their leadership to help them create their best living legacy to empower everyone around them. It's about saying Y.E.S. to YOURSELF first, and then saying Y.E.S. to empowering others. For when you say Y.E.S. in your life and make that commitment to live big, you automatically say no to all the noise, the doubt, and the fear.
You have great power within ... do you dare to stand up and say Y.E.S. I will embrace that, own that, and let that shine for the entire world to see?
Do you ever wonder how the energy of others, people you don't even know could affect you? I had that thought today after talking with a coach of mine about the shift in my mindset between last week and this week, and how it felt almost as if a cloud of something I couldn't quite put my finger on rolled through and hit me hard.
Now, don't get me wrong, I am feeling very positive about my life and my purpose. I mean amazing things are happening in my life and with my business ... yet, somehow I am feeling a bit detached from it. I questioned my coach about this, as he is man who has had a lot of experience in understanding energy and balance, and how the Laws of Attraction really work. When I mentioned that something felt off and I couldn't figure out what it was or where it was coming from, he very easily put things into perspective for me ...
He simply said that I was attracting the energy of the Universe and what was happening on a more global scale. That the world, right now, was full of doubt and fear, with so many issues going on and uncertainties present. He said it's as if the excitement from the New Year faded and people are left wondering what if such-and-such happens, how will I, and what if I can't. This doubt has overtaken the energy moving around us this week.
I almost allowed myself to feel defeated for just a quick moment after he said that. I mean I spend so much time being present and intentional about my own energy and being purposeful about what I attract to me and my space. Now, here is my coach telling me that there is all this energy I have no control over and that it is sucking some of my own focus away and perpetuating my own uneasiness. What??? How I am supposed to accept that and change inside of it of that reality?
Then, we continued talking and I realized that again I need to remember there is so much I cannot control. For in truth, there is very little, in the grand scheme of things, that I truly have control over. For as my coach shared with me, there are only 4 things I can control in any given moment: how I think, what I feel, what I believe, and what I expect.
So, where did that leave me? Well, exactly in a position to make up my own mind about how I would let the energy around me affect me. I may not be able to change the shift in the Universe, or the doubt of many, but I could take action to make sure I am spending my time in the most productive space possible. That I can continue to stay present and focused on my goals and the life I am trying to create. That I can continue to inspire, influence, and impact those who are willing to receive what I have to offer. And, that I can pray for those who are letting doubt and fear paralyze them.
For I choose to take responsibility for how I think, what I feel, what I believe, and what I expect. As my amazing coach quoted Confucius to me, "He who masters oneself is the mightiest warrior.” And, I for one, am a strong and beautiful warrior!
As a mighty warrior I have decided that I will continue to keep myself in a place of gratitude, for my blessings are overflowing. I will keep myself in a place of generosity, as my gift and passion is to lift up others so they might see their own light. And, I will keep myself in a place of curiosity, for the world holds many wonders and I am always learning and growing.
I am empowered strong! I am a mighty warrior!
OK, the first full week of 2014 has come and gone!!! How many of you came out of the gates fired up and ready to go? For those of you who have hit the ground running ... woo hoo!!! Keep going!!! Keep fueling the fire that has you But, let me ask you: Do you have an accountability plan to keep your momentum going?
What about those of you who are still a little shaky as to what your goals are for 2014? Or, maybe you haven't quite been able to get the mojo flowing and the car driving in the right direction? Are you feeling lost, maybe a bit overwhelmed? Let me ask you: Do you have an accountability plan to help you get on course?
If not, that's where I can help! Not only can I help you get crystal clear on the goals you want for this year, I can help you identify the barriers getting in your way, and create a measurable accountability plan to "destroy the noise" and get you moving in the right direction. Now, I assure you there will be some work you will need to do, but if you are ready ... I am here armed and prepared to take you to your next level.
I don't know if it's the magic of the New Year, or the new moon that came with it, but I have been on fire this week!! It is truly incredible all that I have been able to accomplish and organize, the break-throughs and growth I have experienced with clients, and the unbelievable opportunities that are coming my way. As my business grows, I find I am growing with it -- places where I still held onto some fear and doubt are melting away, leaving no trace of what held me back for so long.
For those who don't believe in the Law of Attraction, let me assure you it is very real and very powerful. By creating an intentional mindset and staying focused to the goals and outcomes I desire, I find the actions I need exist directly in front of me and I no longer seem to be waffling on what my next step will be.
How many times do we fight with ourselves to figure out how to or where to start, where the next step will come from, or how we will figure out the pieces to help us get to where we want to go? Too many times, I assure you. What if, instead, you let go of the "how" and simply focus on the "what" ... that is, the what attached to your compelling "why"?
For what happens when we do is magical. Once we destroy the noise and release the fear and doubt holding us back, the answers become crystal clear. The only "how" you need to know is how to let your faith fuel you. For faith is all you need. We make our journey difficult but trying to control how the path unwinds -- rather, we should embrace the journey and let the path guide us. For sometimes in the curves and winds of the road, we find the most amazing and unexpected gifts.
Think about how many times your GPS has given you the shortest route to get you from one point to another ... then, you find yourself stuck in traffic or caught up in construction, or better, that the highway has been renovated and the GPS isn't synced with new route properly. How many times in those instances have you found yourself taking an alternate route only to find the most incredible treasure, maybe it was a hidden hideaway, or one of those whole-in-the-wall, best-place-in-the-world kind of restaurants? Either way, that becomes your new route, or at minimum, a great memory, when you have the destination in mind.
The same is true about your personal GPS. What if you stopped trying to take the shortest route and try alternate routes provided to you? Maybe, try taking a more scenic, or off-the-beaten path route and see where it leads you? What would happen?
But, before you can even do that, you need faith. For faith will give you the promise of something wonderful. Faith tells you that whatever path you take, you eventually will get to the destination you want (or, maybe an even better place you never would have consider otherwise). Dare to take a risk, dare to believe, dare to stretch out of your comfort zone and trust your own internal navigational system. I am!!! ... and, the results have been phenomenal!
I continue to be extremely grateful for all the blessings in my life, and for the love that keeps spilling out of my heart!! I believe in letting my faith be the fuel, letting go of controlling the "how," and giving God the steering wheel. For the outcome is sure to be everything (and, usually more) than I ever dreamed.
Here's to a truly tremendous and powerfully uplifting 2014!!! Happy New Year everyone! #youempoweredstrong
I believe every journey, no matter how difficult, starts with our own faith and beliefs. The road is not always easy, and I know there will be hurdles to overcome, but I ask during our time together, that you trust yourself and this process we are about to embark upon. I find that through prayer I am able to quiet my mind and heart down, and allow peace to guide me forward.
Here is a prayer, and excerpt from my new book in the works, that I wrote to help me when I was at my lowest point a few years ago. I had hit rock bottom, was frustrated and feeling like life wasn't moving in the direction that I really wanted. I questioned my purpose, my value and most of all my own sense of self. I found many nights where all I could do was pray, hold onto my faith and let go of all control and understanding of why. I gave my heart, my mind and my spirit over to God in that darkest hour.
I wanted to share this with those of you who are feeling stuck, or are hurting, or simply feel lost. I hope this helps you regain your faith and set your compass north again.
Help me find my way. I feel like recently I have gotten off the path I want to be on and the one you intended for me. I have lost some faith along the way to guide me down the path that is truly mine. My heart is open to your love. I want to receive love, believe in love, and be open to love fully without reservation. Not only does this mean love of others, but love of myself, as well.
I want to achieve the greatest depths of love through your guidance and accept love from others and for myself. I want to love full out and big, and hope to be able to accept that magnitude of love in return. Help me find my way back. Help me trust in my faith and in your love. Help me to believe in hope again.
In the reflection of your love, I will see the true image of myself, a representation of your perfection. Faith in love, so pure and unyielding, without judgement for the past or apprehension for the future, truly will be the catalyst that sets me free. For the present is the only opportunity to witness the miracles of my soul and to love in all your glory.
Forgiveness and faith also will be key in unlocking the walls I have cemented and the barriers I have built. For these will allow love to flow freely from within my heart. I no longer wish for my fears to paralyze me, but instead I ask for your guidance. I humbly ask you to help me find peace and love within myself, and to be courageous in my quest for truth and growth.
For I am a glorious and powerful child of God. I strive to live a more loving, more beautiful, and more harmonious life. I will not only speak of balance in my life, I will embrace it fully and without fear. I know I was created to be great and to sing the song within my heart. Through this journey, I will start to learn how to abundantly live my life with a greater sense of mission and purpose. I will allow my true self to shine the light that is only mine to give.
With my faith, in your grace, I humbly thank you.
Candy Barone is a leadership development expert, trainer & executive coach. She also is an international speaker, author, and the CEO & Founder of You Empowered Strong, LLC.